Q : Hi Nina, it always seems like my daughter is ignoring me! How do I make her listen to me? How do I talk to my teenage daughter? Please help!
Ans: The most important thing to do when you want someone to listen to you, whether a teenage daughter or your boss, is to listen to them first!
You would think that as a Life Coach, I do a lot of talking, but the fact of the matter is that I actually do a lot of listening. You really have to be able to actively listen in order to effectively communicate. The other big piece is that you have to be able to listen without judgement. Now that’s a challenging one especially when it comes to those who are closet to us, specifically our children! Try not to gauge their experience against your own. Remember that your children aren’t an extension of you but rather they’re separate individuals.
There will always be challenges with teenagers, but they’re just like us and simply want to be heard. So listen first and then talk. I’m confident that this will help your overall communication with her and anyone else! Keep in mind that things won’t change overnight but with this consistent approach, it should get easier!
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